Marissa Bode is echoing a sentiment that many fans — and celebrities — have long shared. The 25-year-old actress, who plays Nessarose Thropp in the upcoming Wicked films, spoke candidly on TikTok after Ariana Grande was aggressively grabbed by a man during the Wicked: For Good premiere in Singapore on Thursday. The frightening moment, captured on video and widely circulated online, instantly triggered renewed conversations about celebrity safety (BBC News).

Grande, 32, was greeting fans and posing for press when the man — identified as Johnson Wen, a social-media personality known as “Pyjama Man” — sprinted down the yellow carpet and wrapped his arms around her. Video footage showed the singer trying to pull away as co-star Cynthia Erivo immediately stepped in to shield Grande before security intervened (The Straits Times; AFP).

Wen later posted footage of himself grabbing Grande on Instagram, thanking her for “letting me jump on the yellow carpet,” and later bragged, “I’m free after being arrested.” Authorities in Singapore charged him with being a public nuisance on Friday (BBC). According to Variety, Wen has a history of similar disruptions, including rushing the stage at concerts by Katy Perry and The Weeknd.

Marissa Bode: “Being a fan is no excuse — you’re violating someone.”

In her TikTok video, Bode pushed back at commenters claiming the man was “just a fan.”

“‘But they’re a fan!’ Okay. Then they’re a fan and a loser,” she said bluntly. Bode added that she’s spoken out many times about “parasociality” — the one-sided attachment some people develop to public figures — and how it often leads to dangerous behavior at events, such as people throwing objects at performers onstage (Rolling Stone).

“This is what I mean when I say social media brings out the worst in people,” Bode continued. “Did you get your likes? Your views? Great — you also made someone feel incredibly unsafe. And you have no remorse. You’re a bad person.”

She also argued that women in the public eye are often unfairly expected to respond with “grace” even in moments of fear or violation. “To expect that makes you a weirdo,” she said. “Most of the time, women respond kindly because they know what the backlash will be if they don’t.”

In a follow-up TikTok, Bode emphasized that her comments extend beyond the Singapore incident and apply to the broader treatment of women in entertainment. She highlighted how artists like Chappell Roan and actress Rachel Zegler often face intense criticism “simply for having an opinion,” adding: “Celebrities are people, not products. They don’t owe you their entire personhood.”

The moment Ariana was grabbed: what happened on the carpet

Multiple social-media videos show Grande walking side-by-side with co-stars Cynthia Erivo, Michelle Yeoh and Jeff Goldblum when Wen suddenly lunged toward her. Grande looked visibly shaken as Erivo, 38, put herself between the man and the singer. Oscar-winner Michelle Yeoh was also seen comforting Grande shortly afterward (People Magazine).

Fans online harshly condemned Wen’s actions:

• “You literally assaulted her. This isn’t a flex, it’s a crime,” one person wrote.

• Another added: “After everything Ariana has been through, this is beyond disrespectful.”

Context: Ariana Grande’s history with trauma

Part of the reason fans reacted so strongly is because Grande has had previous traumatic experiences. In 2017, a suicide bombing at her concert in Manchester killed 22 people and injured more than 1,000 others. Grande later revealed she suffered PTSD as a result, telling Vogue UK that the aftermath was “devastating” for victims, families and survivors.

“It’s a real thing,” she said at the time. “Time helps, but I always feel like I shouldn’t talk about my experience because so many others experienced so much worse.”

Grande remains silent — publicly — but continues promoting Wicked

Grande has not addressed the attack directly. Instead, she posted a carousel of photos from the Singapore premiere the following day with the caption:
“thank you, Singapore ♡ we love you 🫧” on Instagram.

The singer stars as Glinda in the highly anticipated two-part film adaptation of the Wicked musical, alongside Cynthia Erivo as Elphaba. The Singapore event marks one of the major global promotional stops for the film, which is set for release in late 2024 and 2025 (Variety).

Meanwhile, Bode’s comments have gained significant support online, with many praising her for addressing the darker side of fan culture. As Bode put it plainly:
“If you think you’re entitled to someone’s body, space, or safety because you’re a fan — you are not a fan. You’re the problem.”

Marissa Bode is echoing a sentiment that many fans — and celebrities — have long shared. The 25-year-old actress, who plays Nessarose Thropp in the upcoming Wicked films, spoke candidly on TikTok after Ariana Grande was aggressively grabbed by a man during the Wicked: For Good premiere in Singapore on Thursday. The frightening moment, captured on video and widely circulated online, instantly triggered renewed conversations about celebrity safety (BBC News).

Grande, 32, was greeting fans and posing for press when the man — identified as Johnson Wen, a social-media personality known as “Pyjama Man” — sprinted down the yellow carpet and wrapped his arms around her. Video footage showed the singer trying to pull away as co-star Cynthia Erivo immediately stepped in to shield Grande before security intervened (The Straits Times; AFP).

Wen later posted footage of himself grabbing Grande on Instagram, thanking her for “letting me jump on the yellow carpet,” and later bragged, “I’m free after being arrested.” Authorities in Singapore charged him with being a public nuisance on Friday (BBC). According to Variety, Wen has a history of similar disruptions, including rushing the stage at concerts by Katy Perry and The Weeknd.

Marissa Bode: “Being a fan is no excuse — you’re violating someone.”

In her TikTok video, Bode pushed back at commenters claiming the man was “just a fan.”

“‘But they’re a fan!’ Okay. Then they’re a fan and a loser,” she said bluntly. Bode added that she’s spoken out many times about “parasociality” — the one-sided attachment some people develop to public figures — and how it often leads to dangerous behavior at events, such as people throwing objects at performers onstage (Rolling Stone).

“This is what I mean when I say social media brings out the worst in people,” Bode continued. “Did you get your likes? Your views? Great — you also made someone feel incredibly unsafe. And you have no remorse. You’re a bad person.”

She also argued that women in the public eye are often unfairly expected to respond with “grace” even in moments of fear or violation. “To expect that makes you a weirdo,” she said. “Most of the time, women respond kindly because they know what the backlash will be if they don’t.”

In a follow-up TikTok, Bode emphasized that her comments extend beyond the Singapore incident and apply to the broader treatment of women in entertainment. She highlighted how artists like Chappell Roan and actress Rachel Zegler often face intense criticism “simply for having an opinion,” adding: “Celebrities are people, not products. They don’t owe you their entire personhood.”

The moment Ariana was grabbed: what happened on the carpet

Multiple social-media videos show Grande walking side-by-side with co-stars Cynthia Erivo, Michelle Yeoh and Jeff Goldblum when Wen suddenly lunged toward her. Grande looked visibly shaken as Erivo, 38, put herself between the man and the singer. Oscar-winner Michelle Yeoh was also seen comforting Grande shortly afterward (People Magazine).

Fans online harshly condemned Wen’s actions:

• “You literally assaulted her. This isn’t a flex, it’s a crime,” one person wrote.

• Another added: “After everything Ariana has been through, this is beyond disrespectful.”

Context: Ariana Grande’s history with trauma

Part of the reason fans reacted so strongly is because Grande has had previous traumatic experiences. In 2017, a suicide bombing at her concert in Manchester killed 22 people and injured more than 1,000 others. Grande later revealed she suffered PTSD as a result, telling Vogue UK that the aftermath was “devastating” for victims, families and survivors.

“It’s a real thing,” she said at the time. “Time helps, but I always feel like I shouldn’t talk about my experience because so many others experienced so much worse.”

Grande remains silent — publicly — but continues promoting Wicked

Grande has not addressed the attack directly. Instead, she posted a carousel of photos from the Singapore premiere the following day with the caption:
“thank you, Singapore ♡ we love you 🫧” on Instagram.

The singer stars as Glinda in the highly anticipated two-part film adaptation of the Wicked musical, alongside Cynthia Erivo as Elphaba. The Singapore event marks one of the major global promotional stops for the film, which is set for release in late 2024 and 2025 (Variety).

Meanwhile, Bode’s comments have gained significant support online, with many praising her for addressing the darker side of fan culture. As Bode put it plainly:
“If you think you’re entitled to someone’s body, space, or safety because you’re a fan — you are not a fan. You’re the problem.”