But around 6 months ago, something started shifting. Amanda's friend Britney moved back to Dallas and joined the Friday Night Crew. Britney's one of those women who thinks marriage is a prison. She'd constantly post Instagram stories from clubs, talk about how much fun she's having being single.
Suddenly, Amanda started coming home from Friday nights with different energy. Instead of our usual couch time where she'd decompress and we'd catch up, she seemed restless. She'd scroll through her phone more, make comments about how predictable our routine was, ask if I ever wondered what we were missing out on.
The intimacy started fading around the same time. What used to be natural and frequent became forced and cold. She'd find excuses to go to bed early or stay up late working on projects. When we did have sex, it felt like she was going through the motions rather than being present.
About 3 months in, things got worse. Amanda started picking fights over the dumbest stuff. Like one Saturday, I was working on the Impala and she came out to the garage demanding to know why I hadn't noticed she'd rearranged the living room furniture. When I said I hadn't really looked at it closely, she went off about how I never pay attention to anything she does and how I take her for granted, but then she added this real gem: "Maybe if you spent less time playing with that stupid car and more time being a husband, you'd notice things that matter."
She also started complaining more about the time I spent in the garage, saying stuff like, "Normal men don't need to hide in garages all weekend, and I married a man, not a grease monkey." When I tried to explain that restoring the Impala was my passion, she'd roll her eyes and say things like, "It's just an old car. Grow up and find something more interesting."
She started making more comments about money, too. Even though I was the primary breadwinner. "We could afford nice things if you didn't waste money on car parts," she'd say, completely ignoring that my restoration hobby actually added value and that I paid for it with overtime money.
The distance kept growing until I felt like I was sharing a house with a polite stranger who happened to know where I kept my coffee mugs. I tried talking to her about it, but she'd just say she was fine or tired from work, usually while making it clear that whatever was bothering her was somehow my fault for not being psychic.
The bomb dropped one night in March. I was in the living room when Amanda walked over and sat on the coffee table facing me.
"We need to talk about something important," she said, and my stomach immediately went into freefall mode. Nothing good ever follows that phrase. It's like the relationship equivalent of we need to talk.