When men reach middle age
When in love, we often want to be with our partner every day, to sleep next to them every night. But after some time of marriage, we notice that these intimate actions become less frequent. In fact, many men enter middle age and refuse to sleep with their wives.
Why is that? Does it mean they no longer have feelings for their wives? Let’s hear the truth from three middle-aged men.
Mr. Chu: We started sleeping separately after having children, but our feelings for each other have not been affected.
Mr. Chu and his wife have been married for 56 years. They had never slept in separate beds before having children. In fact, if one of them was away, the other couldn’t sleep. But after they had children, their once peaceful world began to get busy.
During the day, Mr. Chu had to go to work and worked hard to earn enough attendance points. He didn’t come home early in the evenings because he wanted to work overtime to make money to buy formula for their child. His wife hadn't gotten a proper rest since giving birth, and she looked very worn out. Even though she stayed at home, she wasn’t any less busy than her husband. Mr. Chu’s wife even suggested that he sleep in the guest room, so he could rest at night and have the energy to work during the day. Since then, they began their days of sleeping separately.
Mr. Tan: Middle-aged men face a lot of pressure at work and long for some time for themselves.
Recently, Mr. Tan's wife has been very upset with him because he decided to sleep separately. At 45 years old, he clearly feels that his body is no longer as strong as before. He often works overtime every day and doesn’t get home until 11 p.m. Recently, the company has been going through a phase of downsizing, and Mr. Tan is facing the possibility of being laid off at any time. Now, he not only fears that the younger guy who just joined the company will take his position, but he also has to prove himself to the leadership. The employees work overtime together. Due to this pressure, he decided not to sleep in the same bed as his wife.
When he gets home at 11 p.m., he just wants to collapse into bed and sleep without doing anything else, but his wife doesn’t understand. She always questions whether he is seeing someone else and demands that he prove he isn’t "cheating." Every time he sees his wife doubting him, he feels very frustrated.
Mr. Chau: "A man who doesn't want to sleep with his wife for a long time may have been cheating.
Mr. Chau had betrayed his wife, but fortunately, she was generous enough to forgive him. He is no longer involved with other women and uses his past example to explain his thoughts to others.
He shared: "My wife and I have been married for 5 years. During this time, our relationship was normal, like any other married couple. Most of the time, everything was good, and we rarely argued. Once, we had a fight, and I was so angry that I went out for drinks with a few friends. I met a girl at the bar because I was upset, and I ended up betraying my wife. Later, I became involved with this girl for a long time. Every time I came home, I felt frustrated with my wife and suggested sleeping in separate beds. No matter how much she cried or tried to convince me, I stubbornly stuck to my decision because at that time, I didn't care about her feelings.
