I don't think you have the full story. I have enough of the story. Amanda told me everything. She said, "You two agreed to try new things in your marriage, and now you're punishing her for it. That's not how marriage works.
Marriage is about forgiveness and working through problems, not running away the second things get difficult." "She asked for an open marriage to cover up the fact that she was already having an emotional affair," I said calmly. "That's not trying new things. That's cheating with extra steps."
"That's not what she told me. She said you both wanted to explore, and now you're being vindictive because she found someone first. You're just jealous that she's more attractive and social than you are."
"Elizabeth, I'm not going to argue with you about this. Amanda and I are getting divorced. The papers have been filed."
"You can't just throw away 6 years of marriage. What about for better or worse? What about working through problems? You're being selfish and immature. My daughter deserves a real man who will fight for their marriage, not someone who gives up and runs to lawyers the second things get challenging."
"I'm being selfish?" I actually laughed. "Your daughter manipulated me into an open marriage so she could sleep with her coworker guilt-free, and I'm the selfish one?"
"She's trying to work on things. She wants to go to counseling, but you won't even give her a chance because you're too stubborn and proud and probably jealous that she found someone more successful than you."
"She had 6 years to not lie to me. That was her chance."
"Maybe if you'd been a better husband, she wouldn't have needed to look elsewhere for appreciation."
At the first sign of trouble, now it was my fault that she cheated because I wasn't a better husband. This woman was delusional.
"Elizabeth, with all due respect, this conversation is over. Don't call me again."
"Don't you dare hang up on me. I'm not finished with you. You're going to regret this when you realize what you're throwing away."