A British couple who established a swingers club have discussed a policy they have for new members they consider "unattractive."

In 2019, Tanya and Ashley Marum married and began swinging a few months later so Tanya could explore her bisexuality.

The couple initially "played" with women at swingers clubs, but after realizing it was a couple-based scene, they soon began engaging with other couples.

But after having trouble finding people they were interested in, Tanya and Ashley founded their own events company, where interested parties could apply online.

"I think it's strengthened our relationship emotionally and sexually," said Tanya, who is from Leeds in the UK.

She went on to say: "The initial appeal was to explore my bisexuality and find women. Ash said, 'if it's something you want to explore, we can do it together and see.'"

"We played with girls for a while, but eventually started playing with couples because it's a scene that is mostly for couples. It's just such a tolerant group of people. It's enjoyable and not just about sex, as people may believe."

The couple has organized events for other like-minded young people in the community and has had to establish ground rules for those they consider "unattractive."

Ashley said: "We had trouble consistently meeting people our age or people we liked, so we messaged people on a website and suggested that we all meet in town for a drink."

"We enjoyed it so much that we decided to do it again the following month."  

"Now we have events with more than 300 people, and we require them to apply on the website so we can see what they look like," he said. "I don't want people there who the majority would find unattractive."

"We want to try to get people to come that they might not be your type, but they're nice-looking and take care of themselves."

"It is the most expensive hobby ever, but we get free tickets to everywhere we want, anytime we want. It has significantly reduced the cost of our nights out," he said.

Ashley also mentioned that the couple's swinging lifestyle has been beneficial to their relationship because it has allowed them to be more open and honest with each other.

"Our trust has grown as a result of swinging. Every couple we know that does it feels the same way," he added.

"There is complete trust, and you learn to understand what each other enjoys more than anything else, and you want each other to be as happy as possible."

"In a normal relationship, you don't get that very often."