Surviving infidelity, need support, new to this sub. Absolutely devastated and completely lost.
I'm not new to this site. This is a throwaway account for obvious reasons. I usually use this site to talk about grilling, smoking/barbecue, football, and electric guitars and amps.
I'm a 51-year-old man with a 51-year-old wife who I've been married to for 33 years. We have three adult children: daughters 29 and 26, and a son 22.
My wife and I have had a very normal, loving marriage for 33 yearsβactually 33 as of next month. Sure, we've had ups and downs over the years like any long-term relationship, but we don't go to bed mad, and we're each other's best friends. I'm a hopeless romantic; she's less mushy about romance, but loves when I make romantic gestures. And I do, all the time: love letters/texts/emails, surprise date nights to do something fun (last one recently was a couple's cooking class and we had a blast), intimacy every week (usually Saturday and Sunday). Happy home, no complaints at all from either of us.
Quick background on me: I had a single mom and do not know my biological father. My mother kept every detail of him a secret and took that secret to the grave with her. My wife and our children have always wondered about that. This year for my birthday, one of my children bought me a DNA test from Ancestry. They said we could maybe discover something about my biological father. Before I took it, all the kids decided they wanted to take one too, since their bloodline also comes from my unknown father.
When we got our test results, they were bizarre, to say the least.
I'm sure some of you have guessed, but my oldest two children are not mine.
We each got our results separately, but the kids had been talking among themselves before they shared with us. So they asked if we could do a family dinner at our house, and they all came over. Dinner was fine, but they wanted to talk to us about something.